Webster defines being familiar as a person who frequents a place, or to be well acquainted. We live in a society where it doesn't take long after meeting someone, just learning their name that we feel or believe that we know them. We feel that we know them so well that we give them our bodies, move them in, and even give them money because we feel that we know them. Interestingly, enough you are right you do know them in a sense because you have continued the same patterns throughout all of your relationships. You see you are doing what is familiar but the only thing that has changed is the person. For example, have you ever found yourself asking questions like these?
Why do I keep choosing the wrong men?
Why do I keep ending up with the same kind of woman?
How do I keep ending up in this same situation?
Most often people would rather live in the familiar as oppose to stopping long enough in between relationships to find out where did you go wrong as oppose to blaming the other person for what went wrong. And, because of this you find yourself reliving over and over the same script but a different cast.
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A Familiar Spirit
I was recently talking to my daughter who is at the age of 21, and I was telling her to look at her relationship patterns. Every young man you are dating doesn't have a job, dreams,
and neither do he have a car. Do you not see this as a problem? What is that common thread that causes one to overlook the obvious? The problem isn't them it is you. I recently sat down by myself and begin to ask myself some challenging questions but for me it was about my company. Why do I not have the kind of clients that I dream of having? Why do I continue to attract people who want service but don't appreciate my hard work? Why do I continue to attract clients who want to nickel and dime me? I realized that I was selling myself short. I was placing more thought on trying to help them but hurting myself. Have you ever realized that loving them has cost you? Doing business with them has cost you? They leave with the goods and you're left holding the bag. But, I declared recently that I am the gift. You don't need them they needed you. You are the one who God has placed the gifts and talents and if they don't like it don't bend, don't break, God has something, someone better for you. Stop selling yourself short!
Let the truth be told I didn't think that I could attract clients who would pay the price for consulting. Even though I wanted those types of clients my actions continued to bring in the same familiar people.
Have you ever placed someone else's need above yours?
Why are you settling for less than what God has for you?
What is it about you that cause you to continue to attract the same kind of people?
Familiarity breeds contempt
When we value least the things which are most familiar it breeds or produce contempt. Have you ever had people to become so familiar with you that they develop a feeling or attitude of disrespect for you, as though what you do and who you are doesn't hold any value? They know that they can call on you and you will answer. They know that if they want sex you are available. They know that they can call on you if they need anything and guest what we give them just what they want, and anytime they want it.
Well I came to encourage you it's time to move on from that familiar situation or person. The time has come for you to raise the bar. You have the power to set the stage of your life. When will you say, 'enough is enough'? When will you get sick and tired of being sick and tired? Then move on!
While you are making this transition remember to stop long enough to ask yourself and God some cold-heart truths. What is it about me that allows people to not appreciate what I do and who I am?
Sometimes, I have found out that I am so busy trying to prove to people how valuable I am that I put my Consulting services on sale. That comment alone brings tears to my eyes. What have you placed on sale, just so that you could have companionship, love, business, or even friends?
The bible says this:
Don't give what is holy to the dogs; nor cast your pearls before swine, lest they should trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you in pieces. Matthew 7:6
In other words stop giving what God has given you to people who don't deserve it, stop giving what is valuable to people who can't afford it because they will not appreciate it and neither will they appreciate you. The time has come for you to move on and stop living in the familiar. As I write, I could hear the Lord say, 'that when you do this, the things that I promised you will begin to come to past.'
YOU ARE WORTHY! It's time to lift up a standard. YOU ARE VALUABLE!
Beautifully Speaking,
Sonya
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