Praise God sis! All that is soo true. And we need to confess or shortcomings and our strenths to God so we can be humble and get exhalted by the Father. We need to put Him first in allllll things:mentally, physically, emotionally,financially,spriritually and,scholastically. We need to step it up and be real with ourselves because God already knows! Keep God first so He can continue to bless us through you in the articles. TO GOD BE THE GLORY!!!
Oh, and one more thing - something I learned recently is that Black men and women, especially, are not equipped to solve our own relationship issues because we don't have positive, motivating examples of people who are happily married around us and we didn't have them growing up. We are so scared to ask a neutral 3rd party like a relationship expert or counselor (not necessarily the church official) for help in these matters, but rather we look toward our own twisted understanding about it all. So most of our lives become trial and error, with more failures than successes when it comes to the opposite sex. We play the blame game, and always blame everyone else. You may think you got it down, but if you've always solved your own problems and you STILL don't have a successful relationship, then perhaps a professional visit is in order. We fear being called out for our shortcomings, and build a false reality surrounding relationships in which our "representative" runs the show until our true colors come shining through. Then, conflict rears its ugly face. If we set our pride aside, and finally say - "maybe I need to change my view" perhaps our relationships, intimate or not, change for the better and not always for the worst.
Can you write something about people staying together through the rough times and using everything they have to work it out - using more than what they THINK they know about relationships to work things out and actually staying together? It seems like our generation is so ready to call it quits, blame the other person for our own shortcomings and move onto the next relationship bringing the same baggage. Sure, it gets tough - but through experience, and looking in a self mirror instead of running to relationship after relationship, we MAY actually take our divorce rate down and marriage rate up. CAN WE PLEASE TAKE THE NEGATIVE OUT OF IT ALL! Talk about the JOY of staying together and working it out sometime.
This article really touched me in a time of need.
You go Sonya! That's right! And to the point!