Taye Diggs: ‘I was hurt when black women dissed me’By: Bossip Staff
Taye Diggs has caught a lot of flack over his white wife, actress Idina Menzel, but the actor wants people to know he actually understands where the critics are coming from.
In a recent interview, Taye Taye says he used to have an issue with black men who only dated white women and that he used to want people to know he wasn’t one of those guys, but now he doesn’t really care:
“You know… I understand,” Diggs says. “It’s a situation that’s unfortunate, but at the same time, being a black man, I understand. I understand the idea of having something that you call your own, and how it could feel when a member of your clan, so to speak, chooses to be with someone from another clan. I get how that could make someone feel rejected.
“But that being said, I can’t tolerate that because it’s 2010 and I don’t have time for that. When I was younger I did get caught up with that. When I was growing up, there were guys who dated everybody, there were guys that only dated black girls, and there were guys who only dated white girls. Back then, I used to judge the black guys that only dated white girls and for so long, I wanted people to know, I’m not one of those guys.
“But as I got older, I realised what the important things in life are. I can’t worry about changing the way that people see me. If you like me, you like me, if you don’t, you don’t. And luckily, I’ve been just fine, you know what I mean? I think people are becoming more understanding. Once people realize that this is a real relationship and that I’m not with my wife because she’s white, but because she’s a wonderful person, all that other stuff falls by the wayside.”
Taye also says the racial stuff used to bother him, especially because he wanted to be loved by black women but he’s come to realize you can’t please everyone so you may as well please yourself:
“I won’t pretend [race] wasn’t an issue, because it was. We’ve had to deal with situations in the past where black women would give her attitude or not acknowledge her, and you’ve gotta nip that s**t in the bud. But for the most part, people have been really positive and I’m proud of that.”
“The older you get, the more you know,” says Diggs. “Different things become important to you. And in many cases, when people have those issues, very rarely can someone change their opinions. The person with those issues has to change from the inside. After constantly banging my head against a brick wall, I realized that you just can’t please everybody.
It did bother me for a long time. I mean, us actors, we wanna be loved by everybody. So it did hurt my feelings, especially when it was black women [shunning me] – my mother’s a black woman. But you can only be who you are and be proud of that and just brush the other stuff off.”
TayeTay also offered his perspective on Slim Thug’s comments about black women. In an interview with Vibe magazine, the rapper said: “White women treat they man like a king and black women feel like they ain’t gotta do that s**t. Black women need to stand by their man more.”
“I try not to judge people,” Diggs says of the rapper’s remarks. “With comments like that, there’s often a deeper issue that has nothing to do with what the actual comment was. Race is such a deeply embedded issue and people get emotional about it. And when they get emotional about it, they speak from the gut.
“When that happens, people can get caught up in the wordage, as opposed to where those words and those feelings come from. That stuff really interests me. Psychologically, I do wonder about those things. But I do think it’s less about color and more about socialization and how we’re raised. It’s deeper than just black women and white women.”
Do you think Taye is being too understanding of Slim Thug? And after all these years of being wifed up with Idina, is it surprising to hear Taye say he was never one of those guys who only dated white women? Do you believe him?
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