Why Do You Insist on Being Married

Let me start by saying this, there isn't anything wrong with desiring to be married.  The problem occurs when you insist, persist, manipulate, and coerce a proposal, a sexual act, just so that someone will make you their wife. This article is not design to judge you but rather to show you the truth in that you can not rush the hand of God no matter how hard you try.

The bible says this:

Knowing this first that scoffers will come

Walking according to their own lusts,

And saying,

'Where is the promise of His coming?

The Lord does not slack (procrastinate) concerning His promise,

As some count it slackness (procrastinating, taking His time)

But is longsuffering toward us (God is patient)

Not will that any should perish but all should come to repentance.

2 Peter 3:3

What is a scoffer?  A scoffer is someone who desires to live in ways that will fulfill their self-indulgent desires. A scoffer is someone who murmur and complain, continuously. Let me explain.  When God doesn't come in your timing and at your pace as women we can become depressed, stressed, and bitter and down right angry and ugly if you will, simply because we are despising our days of singleness. I remember my parents would say you don't know who you are talking to, because if you did you would change your tone. Ladies, we are talking about God so I would highly recommend that you change your tone (scoffing) with Him (you feel me) God doesn't have to do anything, He is God and beside Him there is no other. (so check yourself) The bible says, that this is the day that the Lord has made that we are to rejoice and be glad in it.

If you are single today, the bible says rejoice.  But, what you are doing and saying is this:

 . . . .I want to be married NOW . . . . . . .I want to get remarried NOW! Marriage is not about just fulfilling your need to have someone around.  Marriage is a covenant between a man, a woman, and God.  So as women we must begin to understand that marriage is not just about fulfilling your sexual desires it's so much bigger than that. Marriage is so much more than your saying, 'I's married now!' 

And in that day seven women shall take

Hold of one man, saying,

We will eat our own food and wear our own apparel;

Only let us be called by your last name.

To take away our reproach.

Isaiah 4:1

Ladies, we have been taught that being single is a curse instead of a blessing this is what it means to take away the reproach or the embarrassment of being single. When the scripture stated that the women could feed and clothe themselves they were saying that they just wanted to be married don't worry about being the provider of the house as God intended, just marry me and give me your last name. What about the purpose of which we are called to in being married, according to the word of God? What about the loss of independence (submission) because according to the word of God you can't run your house like you are in Corporate America.  People around you say things like this: you don't have a man yet, when are the two of you getting married? Why are you still single when you are so sweet and pretty, I can't believe that someone has not asked you out when you seem to be a good woman? Advertisement

The Lord's is not going to rush just because people are making these comments. Neither is going to rush because you are having a temper tantrum so you might as well calm down and become a Lady in Waiting. This doesn't mean don't enjoy your life, it simply means this, stop looking for a mate, that my dear is not of the Lord.

Why are you so sad, about not getting married at this moment in your life to the point that you are despising your season of preparation?  You say, I can cook, I can clean, and that's good but what about the baggage that you're carrying of unforgiveness from your past, low self-esteem or your unwillingness to submit to the Lord among other things.

Each young woman's turn came to go in to the

King Ahasuerus after she had complete twelve months preparation,

According to the regulations for women.

Esther 2:8-14

Let me share something with you both Esther and Ruth met the man that God had for them after they left their past and allowed God to prepare them for the promise. 

Marriage has become your complete focus until that is all that you pray, read, talk, and speak about.  The bible says that when you pray, you pray amiss, because you spend it on your own pleasures.  A season of preparation is not a week, or a month, it's about God's timing and His preparation.  Let the truth be told the problem is that we don't trust God to do it.  Ladies, if we do it we are going to mess it up, why add aches and pains to your life.

The bible tells us to be anxious for nothing but with prayer and supplication

with thanksgiving to let our request be made known

and the peace of God that surpasses all understanding

will guard your heart and mind through Christ Jesus.

Philippians 4:6

There is a peace that comes with trusting God to bring you before the man that He has for you. This peace will guard your heart and mind by allowing you to rest in the Lord. Let the Lord prepare you. I know that it gets lonely but let God bless you instead of you blessing yourself.

 I would like for you to join me Saturday, November 22, 2008 as I am invited to be a guest on the internet radio talk show, 'Women Let's Talk' to talk about the famous question, 'How will I know?' I will be discussing things like how will I know if he loves me? How will I know if this is the man God has for me? Go to my website to find out more.

Beautifully Speaking,

Sonya